4 comments on “Once Upon A Time: Boozy Feisty Witches Up To No Good

  1. [“Barely audible, he growls, “He took something I care for.”]

    What a sexist jackass! Rumpel can’t even admit that Belle dumped his ass because he had been lying to her. Just as he never could admit that Milah left him. He has always blamed Hook for “taking her” from him.

  2. Rumpel is basically the King and High Wizard of Terrible Personal Choices, but I don’t know if that makes him a sexist jackass, though. I promised myself I wouldn’t write a novel about this, but I can expound on any of these points as necessary.

    A: I don’t fault Rumpel for his phrasing there. He says “Took something I cared for,” not “something that belonged to me.” He’s basically admitting his jealousy, in a very underhanded kind of way. He lays no claim to the object he desires, he just says that it has caused anguish that Will now has what he cares about. He’d been choking on his own jealousy since he saw the rose. He knows he shouldn’t be asking after Belle’s love life but he can’t help himself. He gets in more trouble with every question and knows that he needs to get the living hell out of there before he totally blows it. When you’re trying not to shout “I hate him because he’s making you happy and I couldn’t!”, whatever managed to actually come out of your mouth is probably not going to be the most coherent thing in the world.

    B: At first, Rumpel believed that Killian had forcibly kidnapped Milah and taken her away. He went to go beg for her that day on Killian’s ship and Hook made a fool of him. He didn’t find out until he was The Dark One that Milah was alive and had left with Killian. Then, his anger shifts away from Killian for taking his wife to Milah for abandoning their son. That’s why he kills her. Well, that and the whole cheating and abandoning and lying and public humiliation thing. I’m not saying any of that makes it OK—Rumpel was wrong for killing Milah because murder is wrong and you shouldn’t do that to someone who isn’t actively trying to kill you, let alone the mother of your child, but I digress. After Rumpel learned the truth about Milah’s betrayal, he remained angry at Hook for providing her a way out (and probably for making her happy), but he doesn’t necessarily feel that Hook actively took Milah away from him.

    C: Yes of course Belle should have left him because of all the lying and attempted murder. But, those kind of aren’t the reasons she mentions when she talks about him. She left him because Lancelot’s Gauntlet revealed his weakness to be the dagger and not her. She’s mad because she’s not his greatest weakness, and that means that he loves his power more than he loves her. Really though? That’s nonsense, because no shit the magical dagger that controls his every move is going to be his greatest weakness and that has very little bearing on how much he may or may not love her. His mistakes are his mistakes, and he owes a lot of people very sincere apologies and needs to reevaluate his life. But also he has been under the thrall of a very dark curse for centuries now. That’s going to have some sort of pathological effect, isn’t it?

    In the end, I guess what I’m trying to say is that while Rumpel is doing a lot of bullshit things and getting himself into ridiculous amounts of trouble and making everything worse, I don’t really think he’s being necessarily sexist. I think he’s just an idiot with a broken heart, and idiots with broken hearts are prone to making some very terrible decisions.

  3. Not certain that “Sexist,” is the proper adjective Lady Lavinia in either situation. Rumpel’s never publicly accepted that his cowardice in the war, lost him Milah’s love and respect and eventually drove her to Hook, however he realizes it was he who drove her away.

    Losing Belle, was due to him thinking he was clever enough to deceive his wife, the woman he had lost time after time, was finally his and he had to mess it up. Starting with the witch from Oz and throughout the Frozen storyline, he became more and more convinced he was invulnerable and once again was Beauty that killed the Beast.

    I do believe that there’s a decent man at the core of Rumpel/Gold, the question then becomes, does he want to embrace that part of him, get his wife back and watch his grandson grow up? We’re watching two cases in this story-arc, concerning whether a tiger can change it’s stripes with Regina and Rumpel, we’ll find out the answers in the next few weeks!

    Thanks for the comment!

  4. And, yeah, that “took something I cared for” is sexist in a male-gaze kind of way, but I think in situations like these, where we’re dealing with a soap opera about fairytales that is a part of an inherently sexist popular culture, wherein said show also tries to work against stereotyping and to portray equality and healthy relationships in a positive way, while still representing classic canon fairytales (with a little scifi thrown in for good measure) in a familiar and engaging way, it’s hard to tease this particular instance out as sexist.

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